Because she doesn't have to be

I used to hate my stepmom. And she felt the same about me. We had some knockdown drag out fights and my poor dad was caught in the middle. And for all the time we as a family spent in counseling and my individual time. It wasn't what made a difference in our relationship. It was life. Growing up and learning to deal with stuff. And realizing we are far from perfect. And being able to say your sorry. My parents have been together for over 20 years and it's only in the latter half have we come together as a family. And now my stepmom is in my life in so many ways and I feel luck to have her there. But the reason is because she doesn't have to be there, she wants to be there. We choose to keep in touch and talk. And that relationship is probably one of my favorites. It's like a friend. You get to choose that they are in your life. But I am extra lucky because she is my stepmom.

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