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Focusing on the wrong things

So in my condo each person has one assigned spot that you own along with your condo. There are plenty of visitor spots but there are three that are much closer to my unit and don't require driving over a speed bump. This may seem insignificant but when you see the volume of crap I carry out of my house on a regular day, you would understand the importance of not carrying it very far. Oh and my car doesn't really get along with the mountainous speed bumps in my community. So I have one very strange little neighbor who has two cars and she never parks them in her assigned spot. She parks them in 2 out of the 3 close spots. I was letting this drive me crazy. I was getting so irritated that she was taking up these spots and leaving her assigned spot empty. I was considering leaving a note on her cars. And then I stepped back and thought about what was going on. This was someone else's actions that I really had no bearing on. I was letting the actions of others dictate my reaction. I was letting something I had no control over, influence me. It was the equivalent of being mad at the weather. Which is asinine when you think about it.

But it made me think about all the times I let someone else influence my reaction. And it's often. Over dumb stuff. So I am trying to not let the actions of others upset me. No small task. But it's allowing me to let things roll off my shoulder a lot easier.

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